My day started yesterday with being tagged in to a tweet containing this post Dr Odent Says no but is he out of date written by Mark @BirthingforBlokes. This is something I had been considering myself for a few days, having listened to his diatribe on Radio 5 live again about why men shouldn’t be at the birth of their child. Indeed, I wrote about this over four years ago in my blog piece Men at birth good idea or not?
Straight off, let’s be clear, I am 100% behind the Mumsnet Miscarriage Care campaign… Time and again we work with parents who have been treated with such a lack of compassion ,that quite frankly, it is inhumane.
After the birth of my first child, my son, I had been left feeling like I’d had no real role, like a spare part, and feeling guilty about not knowing how to support Steph through the birth… It was this experience which led to me founding DaddyNatal so other men got the support and information they needed to be the birth partner they wanted to be.
Several years down the road, this is the story of the birth of our third child, born at home, from my dad’s perspective.
A couple of years ago, I was running a DaddyNatal workshop in Peterborough which was being filmed for BBC’s The One Show, which happened to fall on Fathers Day. At the end of the workshop I gave all the dads a card to celebrate their first Fathers Day. Having just done the DaddyNatal workshop with me, they understood why I did it, but I know many who would have said ‘Why did they get a card when they are not dads yet?‘ The point is, whether your baby has arrived already or is still waiting to arrive, you are already a parent, whether its a mum or a dad.
For those of you that have missed it Steph and I are expecting our third child sometime around the end of July beginning of August. If previous form is anything to go by August is more likely. Anyway this has lead me to some serious thinking, hence this post.
Being a man talking about men on Woman’s Hour
I had the pleasure of being a guest on Woman’s Hour today (Tuesday 29th January 2013). The discussion was around Fatherhood at birth and in the early days, and we were considering some of the research which Tina Miller has recently highlighted in a piece for the Practicing Midwife.
When selecting a car seat for your child, you’ll be faced with a dizzying array of colours, designs, features and prices. But rather than being swayed too heavily by appearance or cost, try to focus on the safety aspects of the seat. Here are just some of the questions worth asking about your child’s car seat:
Having Spoken to Paul on twitter, I asked him to write something about their cause and what they are doing. I hope you will read their story and support them.
If you have children could you ever imagine life with out them now?
Wow what a few weeks, first up we won Best Dadpreneur at the Mumpreneur UK 2011 awards, then we were awarded Business Parent of the Year at Mum and Working awards and now this!!