We are very excited to have a BabyBjorn Travel Cot worth £199 up for grabs. The cot was a huge success in The Dads awards and the focus groups loved the product for its quality and ease of use, awarding it the prestigious Gold Award in the Best Travel Product category.
My day started yesterday with being tagged in to a tweet containing this post Dr Odent Says no but is he out of date written by Mark @BirthingforBlokes. This is something I had been considering myself for a few days, having listened to his diatribe on Radio 5 live again about why men shouldn’t be at the birth of their child. Indeed, I wrote about this over four years ago in my blog piece Men at birth good idea or not?
Just before Christmas, I was involved in a car accident just a couple of miles from home. Steph and Brock (then just 4 months old) were in the car with me. Driving up a country lane, we were confronted by a pick-up truck coming around a corner at speed, across the middle of the road, towing a large trailer. We stopped in plenty of time, but he was going too fast and we had to sit there and watch as he braked, skidded and then hit us head on. The impact was forcible and resulted in our car being written off.
After the birth of my first child, my son, I had been left feeling like I’d had no real role, like a spare part, and feeling guilty about not knowing how to support Steph through the birth… It was this experience which led to me founding DaddyNatal so other men got the support and information they needed to be the birth partner they wanted to be.
Several years down the road, this is the story of the birth of our third child, born at home, from my dad’s perspective.
A couple of years ago, I was running a DaddyNatal workshop in Peterborough which was being filmed for BBC’s The One Show, which happened to fall on Fathers Day. At the end of the workshop I gave all the dads a card to celebrate their first Fathers Day. Having just done the DaddyNatal workshop with me, they understood why I did it, but I know many who would have said ‘Why did they get a card when they are not dads yet?‘ The point is, whether your baby has arrived already or is still waiting to arrive, you are already a parent, whether its a mum or a dad.
Changing bags for dads has always been a bit of a bug bear for me. For our first two children I never felt I had a bag that I actually felt comfortable with or even one that had even given the smallest consideration for dad in the design… in fact I used to make do with a plain black cheap one that we got free from joining a certain baby club.
For those of you that have missed it Steph and I are expecting our third child sometime around the end of July beginning of August. If previous form is anything to go by August is more likely. Anyway this has lead me to some serious thinking, hence this post.
Being a man talking about men on Woman’s Hour
I had the pleasure of being a guest on Woman’s Hour today (Tuesday 29th January 2013). The discussion was around Fatherhood at birth and in the early days, and we were considering some of the research which Tina Miller has recently highlighted in a piece for the Practicing Midwife.